And other thought I have is perhaps being taken seriously means to be vulnerable? Being vulnerable is scary and hard (and honestly getting harder and harder to be every day). Perhaps being funny/witty/humorous is a way to keep the peace, go with the flow, keep your shield up?
I think you are right, it's being vulnerable and having that being taken seriously is the key. I think I personally try to lighten the load so to speak, and joke about my real feelings and experiences. I had a partner once completely ignore me bringing up the fact that I couldn't get specific scenes out of my head in which I had witnessed violence. And I think about that a lot.
Doesn't it seem like we have some preconceived notion of "jesters privilege"? From soothing our fears of both vulnerability, and the offense reality can often instill, humor is just the natural mechanism, and maybe early man had a grasp on that so they raised no weapons to their jesters, after all, in doing so, it may be suicide to some degree.
I think A LOT of people use humor as a coping/defensive mechanism for whatever heavy stuff they have going on or if they’re really nervous in the moment. I’ve been in situations where people use it to the point that it’s uncomfortable and I always have two thoughts in my head when this happens. 1. Huh this is getting weird how do I get out of this conversation? And 2. Oh no have I ever been the person that laid the humor on too thick and made it weird? (The answer is 100% I must have at some point).
And other thought I have is perhaps being taken seriously means to be vulnerable? Being vulnerable is scary and hard (and honestly getting harder and harder to be every day). Perhaps being funny/witty/humorous is a way to keep the peace, go with the flow, keep your shield up?
I think you are right, it's being vulnerable and having that being taken seriously is the key. I think I personally try to lighten the load so to speak, and joke about my real feelings and experiences. I had a partner once completely ignore me bringing up the fact that I couldn't get specific scenes out of my head in which I had witnessed violence. And I think about that a lot.
Doesn't it seem like we have some preconceived notion of "jesters privilege"? From soothing our fears of both vulnerability, and the offense reality can often instill, humor is just the natural mechanism, and maybe early man had a grasp on that so they raised no weapons to their jesters, after all, in doing so, it may be suicide to some degree.
I think A LOT of people use humor as a coping/defensive mechanism for whatever heavy stuff they have going on or if they’re really nervous in the moment. I’ve been in situations where people use it to the point that it’s uncomfortable and I always have two thoughts in my head when this happens. 1. Huh this is getting weird how do I get out of this conversation? And 2. Oh no have I ever been the person that laid the humor on too thick and made it weird? (The answer is 100% I must have at some point).